Month: November 2025

Your 2025 Holiday Peptalk

2025 is almost over. Winter holidays have arrived. My Yule decorations are up, my house is full of leftover turkey, and my playlist is going strong.

I am so glad to see this year go. It’s taken so much from me. I promise I won’t belabor this too much. It’s a downer for me, too. But most of my year was spent caring for the Darling Husband after a horrible stroke. He’s getting better now, but he still requires care throughout the day. My long-term critique job ended because the site folded. We had to move out of my dream apartment and are sharing a house with roommates for the first time in my life. And as if that all wasn’t enough, our beloved cat Harper died.

I don’t say all this to make anyone feel sorry for me. God knows life could be a lot worse. I say it all to let you know where I’m coming from. So when I say I’ll be spending the rest of the year doing whatever is needed to boost my holiday vibe, you’ll understand why.

If you see me on social media appearing way too cheesy and cheerful, mind your business.

And yet, all that’s happened to me this year is nothing compared to what so many have faced. Our country is in rough shape right now. People are losing jobs, losing loved ones, losing their very lives. People can’t afford to feed their families. People are afraid.

Joy to the world, indeed.

I swear, it feels like I’m singing carols and decorating my house while the world burns down around me. You might feel the same way. But here we are. The snow is falling, the calendars have just one page, and whether we’re ready or not, the holiday season is here. So, how do we handle it?

Don’t feel guilty

Do you enjoy the holidays? Great! Do all the holiday things you can. Watch all the movies. Listen to all the music. Wear the obnoxious sweaters. Post a million pictures of your decorations, food, and pets in silly costumes.

Please, post pets in silly costumes and tag me on Instagram. I want to see.

Don’t feel guilty about this. Yes, people are suffering right now. Yes, it can feel almost ghoulish to enjoy food and fun while people are not eating on the regular. But I want you to keep three things in mind.

One: depriving yourself of joy will not give joy to others. It will just mean there’s less joy in the world.

Two, you didn’t cause the suffering of others. I know, I feel guilty too. But we didn’t cause the exorbitant grocery prices. We didn’t ask ICE to kidnap our neighbors and family. We didn’t fire hundreds of government employees. None of us wants this to happen.

(Unless you voted for the current president, then you are absolutely at fault, and I hope you have the holiday you voted for.)

And three, while other people are struggling right now, you’re probably suffering too! You could probably use a little holiday cheer. If a peppermint mocha latte and a stroll through the Christmas lights feels like self-care to you, go do it!

Try to do good where you can

It’s always a good time to help others. But right now it might be needed more than ever. And it’s insanely convenient this time of year.

If you can, donate to food banks. Get something for Toys for Tots. Donate old clothes, toys, whatever you need.

If you haven’t got the extra money, that’s totally understandable. Is there a way you can donate your time? If not to an organization, maybe just in your neighborhood? Can you shovel a neighbor’s walk? Can you double a recipe and take some food over? What can you do to make someone’s day a little bit better?

We’re all in this together. We should do what we can to help.

Pivot!

For all the reasons we’ve already talked about, and a whole bunch more I don’t want to go into, you might not be able to do some of your holiday traditions this year.

Trust me, I’m right there with you.

It’s important right now to be flexible. And I get that the holidays are the time when details matter the most. The exact chocolates, the matching pjs from the same company, the specific trip to the specific store. With the specific person, of course.

Let me start by acknowledging that this is painful. Even if it seems silly, our traditions are traditions for a reason. One of the main reasons why the holidays are so important to us is that they’re so nostalgic. We cook the same things our parents made. We wear the same sorts of things as when we were little. We watch the same movies or TV shows that we watch every year. We read the same books we read every year. A disruption of that feels devastating.

But if we let ourselves get hung up on these details, we lose all chance of joy. And a little joy is nothing to take lightly.

I hope that your holiday season is full of rest, good food, and lots of books. I hope you get to spend it with someone you like. And I hope to see you around here again next week.

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Stop doing everything

I recently moved. I’m sure I don’t need to tell you that moving fucking sucks.

Moving is all-encompassing. It takes up every moment of your time. It disrupts everything. You don’t have anything you need.

And it takes forever! I still have unpacked boxes all over the house.

In short, moving means you stop doing everything that you normally do.

So, I stopped doing everything.

Now, to be clear, this isn’t a post about how we do too much and ask too much of ourselves. I am not saying stop trying to do it all, even though you should for sure stop trying to do it all.

What I mean is that I stopped doing literally everything. I took time off from the day job. I didn’t do any of my usual habits or routines. I wasn’t writing blog posts because I batch-wrote them in advance. I wasn’t writing outside of my journal. I wasn’t doing my FlyLady cleaning.

I wasn’t doing anything but moving house. And while that was in many ways an awful experience, it was also a golden opportunity. See, once I’d moved in and started unpacking, I could have started up all of my routines just as I had before. Instead, I took some time to see what I really wanted or needed to start doing again.

Some things came back right away

There are some routines that have to come back right away, because lives literally depend on them. The Darling Husband’s medicine routine. The plants watering schedule. And of course, my weekly planning time was reinstated as soon as it could be.

What was needed to live came back without a thought. So did the things I enjoy the most. It was kind of nice to know for sure what those things are.

Some things I stopped, but started up again

When I first moved in, I stopped doing my Flylady cleaning routine. This was practical at first, as it doesn’t make a lot of sense when you’re in the middle of moving. Then, well, life got complicated.

I soon realized that I missed having a clean toilet every day. So, I picked that back up.

There are a lot of little chores and routines throughout the week and month that I didn’t start doing again until I realized I needed them. Which was honestly a bit eye-opening. It’s amazing to realize how much I was cleaning because it was a habit, and not because it actually needed to be done.

I know, it’s flat heresy as a woman to say that something doesn’t need to be cleaned. But hear me out. I don’t care.

That’s it. I will keep my home clean enough. Because if I get to the end of the week with a clean house but empty pages where there should be writing, I’ll consider that week wasted.

Some things had to change

When we moved, we didn’t just move into a new house. We moved into a new living situation. Which is to say we now have roommates for the first time in our lives. And that’s actually been a lovely experience. But, it means that many of my habits had to change. Like casually walking from my bathroom to my bedroom with just a towel on.

I used to not worry about laundry baskets, because my washer and dryer were in my kitchen. So I’d just toss things in when they were dirty, and turn the washer on when it was full. Can’t do that anymore.

I also needed new routines. When do the bills get paid? Where do we put mail that belongs to another roommate? Who’s cooking dinner, and when are we going to sit down and figure that out? Everything had to change because we were now taking two more adults’ schedules into account.

I also have to order groceries more often because we no longer live right next to a shop. There are pros and cons.

Now, you might not be moving anytime soon. And good for you, moving is the worst. But the holidays are here. And most everyone’s routines get thrown right out the window while we’re making magic and memories.

So maybe just stop.

Maybe just stop doing all of your routines. I mean everything. Your morning routine. Your before-bed routine. Your chore charts, face care, everything. Then, see what you want to put back. See what still fits your life in the season you’re in. See if you can do some things better, or if there are some habits you can get rid of altogether. If nothing else, you can rest assured that everything you’re doing, you need to actually do. And at best, you can drop a lot of busywork out of your routine.

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My Holiday Planner Pages

It’s snowing as I write this. It looks so magical. I’m watching the big fluffy flakes fly past my windows, sipping coffee out of a festive snowflake mug.

The time has come, my friends. The time has come to start planning for the holidays. And I am so ready. So today, I want to share with you my holiday planning pages.

I celebrate Christmas and Yule. The Darling Husband’s birthday is also in December. And my best friend is Jewish, so I at least acknowledge Hanukkah and help her celebrate it. So this month is just bursting with things that need planning.

It’s fun! (Eye twitching)

Now, if you read my post a few weeks ago, it might surprise you to learn that I’m making paper planning pages for this. I just started keeping a digital planner.

And yes, I love my digital planner. I love Artful Agenda, and it is helping me organize everything. So let’s first talk about why I’m making a paper planner in addition to this and why you might consider doing so as well.

First of all, I want to make a paper planner. Having my holiday plans down on pretty paper gives me such a burst of endorphins. Checking off gifts as they arrive is just fantastic. I should also point out that my pages aren’t in a normal planner. They’re part of my memory-keeping scrapbook. So it’s part planning, part journaling.

This is something I’m going to rely on in the years to come. My previous years of planning helped me prep for this year. I can look back and see what I planned, what worked, and what didn’t work. What I planned to do that didn’t get done. What I thought I wanted to do, but realized after I really didn’t care to. Even better, I can see things I’ve always planned to do and really want to, but never get around to. With all of this information, I can plan better.

All of this planning is essential if you’re going to make the holidays happen without losing your mind. Because we all know that the holidays don’t just happen unless you’re a child. If you want the beautiful peppermint-flavored glowing moments, you have to make them happen.

So the planning has to happen. But when I scrapbook and handmake my planners, it makes planning into a holiday activity in itself. One just for me.

The holidays are about family, and that’s great. But to me, the holidays are speckled with little private, quiet traditions. Moments that I look forward to almost as much as the family events. I get to sit down with my scrapbook toys and a cup of good coffee. I get to set everything up and savor the anticipation. It is fantastic.

Finally, you all know I’m big on memory keeping. I love being able to look back at the warm, glowing holiday moments. That’s why I keep a memory scrapbook to start with. And this is the most important part of making a holiday scrapbook planner. I am building an infrastructure where all of my lovely memories can be collected. Otherwise, I’m moving too fast to capture anything for later.

Now, let’s talk about the pages themselves. These are the ones that I find most useful, and generally create every year. I’ll be including pictures as well.

Holiday events calendar

The first page, aside from the cover page, is a bullet journal-type holiday calendar. This one’s pretty self-explanatory. I write all of the days from Black Friday to New Year’s Day, and then any holiday events that are happening. I don’t think I need to go into more detail about this. It’s a calendar. We’re good.

Gift list

I probably won’t share a completed gift list page here, because at least two people I’m shopping for might stumble upon this. But it’s a decorative list of all the things I’d like to get for people. I also put an envelope full of decorative paper. So when I go out for the always popular Christmas Shopping trip, I can make a cute little list to take with me.

My holiday bucket list

I love making a bucket list for every season. They help me keep track of things I want to do, and help me make time for them among all the things I have to do. I track holiday books I want to read, movies and specials I want to watch, and all the things I want to do. Things like making mulled wine and creating an ice altar.

Holidays are busy as hell. While it might seem silly to write down things you want to, it helps. It makes these fun things a priority. And they should be.

My Yule Good Deeds List

I am a witch. And witches take care of their community. While I try to do this all year round, Yule is a time for me to really double down. So every day from December 1st to Yule day (Usually December 21st or 22nd), I try to do something nice for others. I’ll give extra donations, leave heartfelt comments online, and put Christmas cards out in public. Just something fun or nice to lift someone’s holiday spirits.

I like to keep track of these, first off, to keep myself accountable. But also because I inevitably am left with no ideas for creative good deeds by December 14th. Having a list of things I’ve done in the past is super helpful then.

If you’re a witch, or even if you’re not, you might also enjoy doing 21 days of Yule kindness. Put a little love into the world. It’s sure needed.

New recipes

I like collecting recipes in my holiday journal. First, because it’s easier for me to look at a piece of paper than a screen when I’m baking. Second, because I like to keep track of what I tried from year to year. It’s another form of memory keeping.

Journaling pages

Finally, I have several pages decorated for the purpose of journaling. For collecting pictures, I take. For lists of the best memories, best moments. For the best gifts, both physical and not. Because those are the things I’ll treasure in the years to come. Not the food, which will be gone in a flash. Not the things we buy each other. But the memories of loved ones enjoying time together making the darkest days of the year the brightest.

I hope this post gives you some ideas for making your holidays more organized, more joyful, and more centered on things you and your family actually enjoy doing. Now, it’s your turn. Let us know in the comments your favorite holiday tradition.

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Why House of Quiet Works

Released in September of this year, House of Quiet is the latest novel by Kiersten White. This is the same author who brought us Mister Magic, Lucy Undying, The Dark Decent of Elizabeth Frankenstein, and Hide. Which is to say, the author of some of the best books I’ve read in the past few years.

House of Quiet is about a young woman named Birdie. She’s spent the last several years trying to find her little sister Magpie, who vanished after undergoing the mysterious Procedure. Birdie poses as a maid to get into the mysterious house of quiet. But what she finds there is a group of children who need to be rescued.

Today, we’re going to break it down and see why it works. Because there’s a lot that can be learned from this wonderfully dark, sweet tale.

Just jump in

The story starts in the middle of things. It starts with a mysterious woman wandering around the House of Quiet with a candle, bemoaning how loud it was.

We then jump to Birdie, heading to the house of quiet, thinking of all of the shady things she had to do to get there.

As we follow along, we only get an idea of the world she lives in and what she’s doing. We know that she’s grown up in crippling poverty. We know that she’s never speaking to her parents again. And that’s about it.

But that’s okay, because we’re going up to the house. We’re meeting the other new maids. We’re being drugged with tea. There is stuff going on, and there will be time to explain later. The important thing is that we’re not slowing down the start of our story. We are jumping right in.

Don’t over-explain

I spent a lot of this book trying to figure out what in the hell was going on. I wanted to know what happened to Magpie. I wanted to know what the procedure was. I wanted to know what had happened to Birdie’s friends. I wanted to know why Minnow was acting so strange.

And never once was any of this simply out and out explained.

No, the story was moving too fast for that sort of thing.

This was infuriating, but in a good way. Because everything is answered, eventually. It’s just that we have to piece things together as we go. Or, we find out as the characters do.

House of Quiet brought the ‘show don’t tell’ rule almost to its breaking point, but not quite. At no point did I feel so lost I thought I’d never catch up. But it wasn’t until near the end that I really felt like I knew what was happening.

This is a hard line to walk, giving just enough information for the reader to barely understand. But, I think the easiest way to do this is to have faith in your reader. Don’t feel like you’ve got to spell everything out for them. Leave some spaces for them to fill in the blanks themselves.

Anything can be used to world build

One of the most charming things about House of Quiet was the naming structure of the characters. People raised in poverty have animal names like Minnow, Magpie, and Birdie. People from the upper class have names like River or Forest.

This is a super quick and efficient way to give us information about a character with the fewest words possible. We know the character’s name, and we know what class the character is from. And in a book that is all about class warfare, that’s vital information.

This is a great example of using every element you can to world-build. Names, clothes, jewelry. Think about how all of these things impact our real world. And yes, you should be using any of these to show your world, rather than telling us about it.

Now, all this being said, this book wasn’t perfect. My biggest complaint, I think, is the relationship between the characters. They were, in my opinion, a little too sweet. They came together too quickly. They were too kind to each other. But, of course, this is a book for young adults. So maybe that’s why.

This was not enough to ruin the story for me. House of Quiet was a fun, heartwarming tale, and I enjoyed it greatly. If you haven’t read it yet, do it today.

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